We have been wearing a memory bracelet for Tim since his passing. The college made them up and gave them to all the students, and our family got a bag of the bracelets. There are three parts that get little attention. Usually, people notice Tim's name, his birth year and his year of passing. The three parts I wanted to give some attention to is the part before Tim's birth year, the dash between the two years, and the part after the year Tim passed.
The first part on the bracelet before the birth year is blank, but it represents the time my wife and I were waiting for nearly 10 years. My wife and I went throught dozens and dozens of medical therapies and treatments to get pregnant. We finally moved to MA for the last two years where we met a doctor Vitto, who made a miracle happen in 1996 when Tim was born. This area on the bracelet is truly dedicated to Tim's mom, who never gave up hope that we would have a beautiful child.
The second part is the dash between the two years. This represents Tim's life, which was filled with life, love and millions of beautiful moments. Tim brought happiness to our family, friends and stangers he met in his nearly 21 years. Even as a baby, he had a smile and a spirit that brought such joy and love to his mother and dad, it wiped away those 10 years of waiting for Tim. We all will eventually have a dash, but for our son, his dash, his life, is more than words can express.
The third part is after the year of his passing, 2017, which is an area many of us know all too well. Our family misses Tim each and every day since we lost him. We are doing our best, but the love for Tim is never ending and that is kinda like the bracelet. It's round, one part goes into the next area. We all share the loss of our children and we all feel our child in our hearts and soul. It's an area of the bracelet which we all share, but the love we hold for our son, brother, grandson, nephew, cousin, friend, is still with each of us forever more.
Love, Mom, Dad, Katherine
Here is a poem Tim wrote to his mom. It shows how special Tim was to all of us.
The view is beautiful.
There isn't a kid in sight and the waves are gently rocking the boat.
The sunset makes the sky turn bright blue.
There is nothing to worry about and nothing you have to do.
You lean over the side of the boat and see the millions of coconut trees among hte sandy beaches.
The breeze makes your hair wave back and forth.
A bird lands on the railing of the boat.
You reach out your hand and touch the bird's light feathers; they feel as soft as a new sofa.
You let it go off into the wide-open ocean.
It flies up into the sky with its flock and writes.
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY