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The Compassionate Friends
North Shore - Boston Chapter

Grief Support after the Death of a Child


This website is dedicated to the memory of all of our children.

 
 

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CANDLELIGHT

REMEMBRANCE SERVICE

SUNDAY, DECEMBER 13, 2020 
6:30 PM

 

The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting takes place on the second Sunday in December from 7:00 to 8:00 PM in each time zone around the world.  This year, the North Shore-Boston Chapter is planning to hold a virtual Candlelight Remembrance Service through Zoom on Sunday evening, December 13th, 2020 starting at 6:30 PM, in conjuction with the TCF worldwide event.

Some of the event plans have not yet been finalized.  Please stay posted for updates.

We are planning on having live music during this event.  We are also offering our members an opportunity to do a reading during the service.  The reading can be something that you have written, or a piece that inspires you, has helped you through your grief journey, or connects you to your child, grandchild or sibling.  We ask that readings be less than 500 words.  There are a limited number of reading slots available.  If you are interested in doing a reading, please contact tcfnoshoreconnect@gmail.com

We are also planning on running our traditional slide show for Our Children Remembered during this virtual event.  For our newer members, the slide show is a compilation of photos of children, grandchildren and siblings of the members of our chapter.  If you would like, you may submit up to 3 photos of your child, which will be posted as space permits on each slide.  Pictures should be 5"x7" or smaller and should be as close as possible to the age of the child's angel date.

When you submit your photos, please include the child's name as you wish it to be posted, birth date, death date and age at time of death.

All photos should be submitted electronically no later than December 9th to:

tcfnoshoreconnect@gmail.com 

 
 

 
 

Volunteer Opportunities

If you are one of our seasoned grievers, our chapter needs you to help fulfill its mission to reach out to the newly bereaved. Please attend our meetings and share your wisdom. There are a number of ways in which you can contribute to our chapter, including:

 

  • Assisting our Hospitality Committee with such tasks as arriving early to set up before meetings, greeting members as they arrive, providing refreshments, cleaning up after meetings

 

  • Assisting with facilitating our chapter meetings

 

  • Assisting with planning and organizing special chapter events, such as the December Candlelight Remembrance Service, the Spring Event and the Walk To Remember.

 

  • Assisting with organizing the chapter library, helping members to check out and return books, or donating appropriate material to our library

 

  • Contributing articles or stories for our monthly newsletter

 

  • Assisting with the management of our chapter website

 

  • Assisting with phone calls to the newly bereaved

 

For more information about volunteer opportunities or to help with any of the above services, please contact David Paul at 978-771-6345 or by email.

 

We charge no dues or membership fees and rely on the generosity of our donors to support our website, our newsletter, office supplies, postage, copying, books and other materials. A donation box is available at each meeting for general donations. You may also make a donation to have a message posted in memory of your child, grandchild or sibling in the Love Notes section of our chapter newsletter, or you may sponsor our chapter website for one month in memory of your child, grandchild or sibling and post your message to them on our website.

 

We are most grateful for any way in which you are able to support our chapter.

 

 

History of Our Chapter

In 1977, eight years after her daughter, Gale, died of meningitis at the age of seventeen months, Joan McLaughlin read an article in her local newspaper about a group for bereaved parents called The Compassionate Friends.  A couple by the name of John and Dorothy Chipman were planning to hold the first meeting of the new local chapter of TCF in Lynnfield, MA.  Joan understood the importance of getting together with other bereaved parents, because six months after her daughter’s death, she became acquainted with Ada Mongiello, whose daughter had died of lymphoma at the age of three.  Together, Joan and Ada helped each other through their difficult times, so Joan imagined that it would be even more beneficial to have a whole group of bereaved parents supporting each other.

When Joan attended her first TCF meeting in Lynnfield, MA, she met Jean and Tom O’Hare, whose twin daughter, Jeannie, died of leukemia at the age of fifteen.  Joan and the O’Hares became fast friends.  A year later, when the Chipmans decided to give up the chapter leadership, Jean, Tom and Joan became the new leaders of the North Shore-Boston Chapter of The Compassionate Friends.  They moved the chapter meetings to their hometown of North Reading, MA, and meetings have been held at the Aldersgate United Methodist Church ever since.  Joan, Tom and Jean served as chapter leaders until 1989.  During that time, they dedicated themselves to reaching out to educate the local communities about the mission of The Compassionate Friends and as a result, our chapter thrived and kept growing.  

At its onset, our chapter held one support group meeting per month and produced a monthly newsletter, which was mailed to all of its members.  Every December, the chapter would also hold a Candlelight Remembrance Service, which was a special, significant event to celebrate our children.  This tradition has continued and is usually held on the second Sunday in December in conjunction with The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting event. 

In the spring of 2004, some of our members came up with the idea of having a balloon release along with a potluck supper as an additional annual chapter event.  This event has served as another way to gather our members for a more casual meeting and to honor the memory of our children.  Although we no longer do a balloon release, our chapter continues to hold an annual symbolic Spring Event. 

In 2005, our chapter website was established.  This has served as an additional resource for the newly bereaved and their supporters, as well as a means to increase awareness about The Compassionate Friends. 

In 2011, the frequency of our support group meetings was increased to twice a month. 

In 2015, our chapter Sibling Group was initiated and this group has continued to meet once a month since that time. 

In 2016, our chapter added a third annual event.  The Walk To Remember, which is usually held each autumn, is another opportunity for our members to gather socially and to honor our children, grandchildren and siblings.   

                             

Our chapter has been active for over 40 years and remains strong and viable due to our volunteers, whether they are willing to organize or facilitate meetings, reach out to the newly bereaved, produce and contribute to our monthly newsletter, manage our chapter treasury, manage our chapter website, or coordinate chapter events.  It is truly amazing that when people are hurting so deeply, their willingness to help others can significantly contribute to their own healing process. The ongoing willingness of group members to reach out and help others is the reason for the long-term effectiveness of The Compassionate Friends and the North Shore-Boston Chapter.